FAQ's and How To Use EDs
What are EDs?
Emotion Drops or EDs are a tool to help adults and kids become more aware of their emotions, learn how to express them, and how to manage them.
What is Name it to Tame it?
'Name it to tame it' is a phrase coined by the psychiatrist, Dr. Dan Siegel. Very simply, when you or your child is having an emotional response, this emotion is triggered by the mammalian or 'downstairs' brain (the limbic brain). When you notice the emotional response occurring if you can NAME THE EMOTION or help your child describe what it is they are feeling, this activates the thinking 'upstairs' brain (cerebral cortex) and the 'upstairs' brain will begin to squirt soothing neurotransmitters to the 'downstairs' brain and will calm it down or TAME IT.
By using EDs and identifying the colour that describes the emotion being felt and then being able to name what this emotion is, you will engage that upper brain and begin the process of soothing the emotional response being felt.
Why say 'I'm having an ED'?
It is important to remember that emotions are states that we experience but they are not who we are. We experience a feeling but we are not that feeling - 'I feel sad' rather than 'I am sad'.
When you use the phrase, 'I am having an ED', it automatically separates the emotion from the person in a way that is easy to incorporate. 'I am having a red ED' becomes an easy way to express that you are experiencing an angry feeling.
TIPS for Caregivers Using EDs
Model the use the EDs around your children for your own emotional self-regulation
Begin to label your own emotions…’ I am having a BLUE ED, I am feeling SAD’
Based on the age of your child, help guide them through the steps on the Self-Regulating Card until they are able to use the EDs independently
Ask questions such as ‘What happened to make you feel the ED’?
REMEMBER: This is not a moment to teach or lecture! Just listen and let your child 'story tell' the situation. Once a child returns back to a ‘regulated’ state then decide if there is a teaching opportunity
CONNECT on an emotional level when your child is emotional. This is not a time to use your ‘logical, linear’ brain but instead focus on non-verbal ways to connect such as a hug, eye contact, and a head nod.
Accept, empathize and validate that emotions are normal and you also have felt what they feel.